No one person can give us pleasantness or unpleasantness. We, ourselves are responsible for making the life we have pleasing. To pass blame, doesn’t fix anything. Issues are still there until they are accepted, understood where individual responsibility rests, and releasing the upset and pain through the Power of Forgiveness to the Universe…freeing ourselves from fear and guilt.
No matter who is in our life, not even God, another deity, or the Universal being, can bring about a happy ending if we are not prepared to take responsibility for our actions and possible failures and consequences.
We are the ones who determine how much suffering and enjoyment we will experience in every moment of every day by the way we think and how our thoughts form our energy into action, consciously and unconsciously.